The Foundation of Fatherhood

by APC on June 13, 2018

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh (Genesis 2:24, KJV).

When God created man and woman, He established the marriage relationship. Self and independence were laid aside and an identity change took place. No longer would man and woman operate in silos or do anything to jeopardize their bond. Man and woman would become one: a relationship of utter importance.

This relationship’s values perpetuated on to another birthed institution—the family. As the first children were born into the world, there came the foundation of fatherhood. With the recent charge by God, Adam knew he had a long life ahead of him to abide in this ministry and share the truths His Heavenly Father had given to him.

Down through time, generation to generation, this concept has been passed. And, it was with this knowledge my grandfather told my father, and my father told me: there’s nothing more important than family.

With my short time here on this earth, I’ve noticed the men in this world who hold fast to this truth are few in number. Realizing the importance of family is nothing compared to actually living and abiding it. It’s much easier said than done, especially in the world we live in today.

But, I’ve been blessed with having someone who bought into this truth and never let it go my whole life. That was my father.

There was never a point in my life growing up when I lacked anything. My dad worked innumerable jobs so my mother, sisters, and I could live comfortably. For him, this meant giving up a few life-long dreams about his future career, but to him, it didn’t matter. Nothing was more important than family.

On various mornings, I would struggle through practicing a piano concerto before school. My father would come downstairs to my practice room, leaving his dressing table, and spend time coaching and instructing me through fumbled keys. He lost time getting ready for work and could have possibly been late for all I knew, but nothing was more important than family.

When it came time for much needed rest and time away from long hours at work, my father wouldn’t escape with my mother to a place of peace. Instead, he would load up his family in the van and drive 16 hours to the east coast. He wanted his family to have a vacation together, even if this meant dealing with crabby children, bad traffic, leg cramps, and who knows what else—all because nothing was more important than family.

As children, you don’t always understand the sacrifices your parents make. You don’t understand the importance of family. You don’t understand the heavy responsibility weighing on your father’s shoulders to set the example, lead, and provide for his family. And, I would argue that even as an adult, I still don’t know all of what my father did for me. But, I do know he’s never yet hung his hat on that point.

As we celebrate Father’s Day this Sunday, I pray the Lord would give us a fresh awareness of the importance of family and what all our fathers do. It isn’t without the guidance, strength, and anointing by God that our fathers are able to meet this heavenly charge, founded at the dawn of mankind.

Let’s give praise to the Lord for their sacrifice and give honor first to the men in our lives who have put God and their families first in theirs. Thank you to all the fathers out there. We wish you a happy and blessed Father’s Day.