Peace: The Remedy for Conflict

by APC on December 03, 2015

In the hustle and bustle of the Christmas season, it’s easy for us to lose sight of the true meaning of the season. We get wrapped up in the activities of the season, and our 100 mph pace fights against the peace we have in our life. Before we know it, we’ve become a Grinch!

The crazy schedules we maintain have a tendency to define our concept of peace. We think peace in our life equals the absence of tension, but God defines this differently. The word peace in Greek reveals God’s true intention—quietness or tranquility of order. Our goal this Christmas season is to find God’s true meaning of peace and apply it in our life!

Three Applications of Peace

Peace with God

The greatest contributor of disorder in our life is disobedience to God. We can be disobedient either to His written or spoken Word. When we are obedient to God, we will have peace through God (Romans 5:1), and we will have a sense of spiritual order in our life.

Scripture tells us, “For the kingdom of God is not meat and drink; but righteousness, and peace, and joy in the Holy Ghost” (Romans 14:17, KJV, emphasis added). The peace that we receive will always be in the presence of God (Holy Ghost) in our live which establishes order when there isn’t any! When we are spiritually minded and obedient to the things of God, we will find peace (Romans 8:6).

Peace of God

Difficulties in our life can bring a feeling of disorder, but only if we view them with the wrong perspective. Peace can bring a sense of psychological order to our life. Jesus gave us a different kind of peace so we wouldn’t be troubled in this world (John 14:27) and so we could overcome tribulation (John 16:33). Jesus promised that when we pray, we would receive the peace of God, which would pass all understanding (Philippians 4:6–7). The world will never understand true peace!

Peace on Earth

God wants us to experience peace in the earthly realm as well as our spirit and mind. Scripture tells us there is to be peace on earth (Luke 2:14) and there is power in God’s peace! When we have the peace of God activated in our life, others will be drawn to us to experience His peace. We can be a witness to the power of God’s peace in our life, and we can impact the world (earth) around us.

We should have peace in our relationships. God has always been the author of peace and not confusion (I Corinthians 14:33; Ephesians 2:14). Jesus came to institute peace back into our relationships. If we don’t have the peace of God, our relationships can get rough. Relationships are where we live out our everyday lives so they need to be peaceful!

What a Person With Peace Looks Like

Scripture tells us that fools will start fights everywhere but the wise keep the peace (Proverbs 29:8). Some people will need conflict to survive, but peaceful people have laid hold on a revelation of where true power resides—in peace! Matthew 5:9 tells us, “Blessed are the peacemakers…” (KJV). Problems will never be resolved if we: (1) avoid them and unresolve the conflict or (2) appease the problem! We need to build peace in our lives.

How to Be a Peacemaker

Plan for Peace

Before we come into the presence of God, Scripture tells us to work out our differences with our brothers and sisters (Matthew 5:23–24). God is so concerned that we maintain peace in our lives that He wants us to stop our worship and take care of the conflict. We are to plan to take the initiative to create the peace regardless if we are offended or the offender.

Empathize with People

A challenge with conflict is that no one is willing to see things from the other person’s point of view. We need to empathize with others to help perpetuate peace! We are instructed to have compassion toward one another and love each other (I Peter 3:8). Hurt people have a tendency to hurt others—sometimes by intention and sometimes unintentionally. When others act out, it may have nothing to do with us. We need to try to understand what they’re going through and help bring out peace in their life. The key to intimacy is conflict. Relationships become strong and lasting when they endure conflict together and come out stronger than ever!

Attack the Problem, Not the Person

If we seek to destroy a person, we won’t be able to resolve a conflict and create peace (Proverbs 10:10). When we do approach a brother or a sister to resolve a conflict, we should speak truth in love and respect the person (Ephesians 4:15). When resolving a conflict, consider seven ground rules for fighting fair:

  • Never compare
  • Never condemn
  • Never command
  • Never challenge
  • Never condescend
  • Never contradict
  • Never confuse

Cooperate As Much As Possible

As much as we are able, we are to live peaceably with everyone (Romans 12:18). There are some people we will encounter that will never accept peace, but we are to try as much as we are able to be peaceful with them. God will give us all ability through Him, and the power of the Holy Ghost working in us. God will give us wisdom to mitigate peace with other people, and that peace will be sincere (James 3:17).

Emphasize Reconciliation and Not Resolution

Some conflicts will never be resolved, but this doesn’t mean that we cannot see reconciliation in our relationships. God has given us the ministry of reconciliation (II Corinthians 5:18), which means that we have been restored.

Reconciliation in our lives was accomplished on the cross. Our relationship was restored with God through the shedding of Jesus’s blood. However, the cross did not resolve all conflict in our lives. We are still learning and we are still being taught by God and to be more like Him and to overcome our sinful ways and trials of this world. We are in the process of being resolved, but have already been restored in relationship. In our own relationships, we may never resolve the conflict, but we can disagree with someone and still love them.

Perfect Peace

Human beings are incapable of sustaining God’s definition of peace by ourselves. One of Jesus’ titles was the Prince of Peace (Isaiah 9:6). When we have His Spirit activated in our life, we can truly find peace. We need the power of the Holy Ghost working in our lives to be able to experience, maintain, and emulate peace regardless of what is going on around us—especially this Christmas season. Don’t be a Grinch; get God’s peace!

Adapted from Wednesday Night Bible Study on December 02, 2015